[Durham INC] Letter re INC Marriage Resolution

[TheOcean1 at aol.com]

First, thank you to all the folks who sent me the letter in question, per  
my request.
Second, just FYI to Darius, Durham is comprised of closer to 200  
neighborhoods, but we should be preparing for 600, because someday we'll  probably 
have that many.
 
Now on to the meat of the issue:
 
I think it's always a wise move for the INC President to include the actual 
 resolution passed by the neighborhoods along with any comments. I 
personally  like the language Tom constructed, however my neighborhood never voted 
on it.  That said, the content of Tom's well spoken letter is not 
substantially  different from the passed resolution, in fact it is a rather eloquent 
summary of  it.
 
Dick, let me offer a suggestion. You've only attended one INC meeting,  and 
your neighborhood never voted on this particular matter, but that doesn't  
mean you are less welcome to voice your concerns the way you have. 
Expressing  opinions is encouraged at INC, as you will find.
 
If you are ever elected President of INC, you'll have a chance to lead  and 
communicate with elected officials on behalf of the member  neighborhoods. 
You'll find the need to summarize the neighborhood's collective  position on 
various issues, and if your summary is not to the liking of any of  them 
you will hear from them ~ just as we are hearing from you now. That's a  good 
thing. INC leadership is best conducted in a glass jar surrounded by vocal  
activists. I think INC operates very close to that ideal, and think you'll 
agree  in time.
 
My suggestion is that you take that time. Doesn't mean you should  remain 
silent when you disagree, even if it is your first meeting, no sir, we  
expect to hear from you right from the start. So remain vocal, but take note of  
how INC operates effectively, because I believe {in time} you'll discover it 
 does.
 
And if you ever become President, you'll have the opportunity to  
editorialize from inside the glass jar surrounded by activists as  vocal as yourself. 
 
eeeeeBill Anderson



In a message dated 9/11/2011 7:14:33 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,  
rbford at aim.com writes:

 
 
Tom, 
I  believe you need to either not send the letter you posted or immediately 
 disavow it as representing the position of INC. 
INC  adopted a resolution to oppose the amendment emphasizing positive 
values. We  did not attack anyone, compare the amendment to any historical 
events nor  issue a call to deal with any issues beyond the proposed amendment. 
It appears the letter  reflects your personal views, mirroring much of what 
you said at the meeting  where the resolution was adopted.  It does not 
reflect the adopted views  of INC. 
Beyond the material differences between your letter and  the resolution, I 
am alarmed that a community organization such as INC would  appear to 
characterize views held by many of our neighbors, friends and their  organizations 
as hateful and bigoted.  You may be intolerant of dissent  on this issue, 
but INC can hardly afford to be. 
We  adopted a resolution, which can be sent to our legislators and 
otherwise  publicized.  Your letter appears to represent your opinions and INC  
should not be yoked to it. 
I  told my Board what was adopted.  I hope to be able to tell them that 
your  letter has been withdrawn and that the INC position will be accurately  
represented. 
Also I need to tell them that a protocol has been put  in place to prevent 
any similar misrepresentation in the future. 
Personally I am really upset to see such a divisive  polemic on a day when 
all Americans are reliving the effects of intolerance  and hatred from ten 
years ago. 
Best 
Dick




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