[Durham INC] Fwd: letter on the marriage amendment

[John Martin]

As a gay man, I'm opposed to the constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.  But I'm also disturbed by Tom's letter for two reasons.
1)  If the president is free to add material to the resolutions, then I don't really know what I'm voting for nor does anyone else.
2)  What Tom is basically saying is that anyone who supports the constitutional amendment is an ignorant, hateful bigot.  Is this supposed to be persuasive?  Are we to imagine that a legislator who is on the fence will say to himself:  "Why, that's right.  I am an ignorant, hateful bigot and I'll change my opinion forthwith."  Certain kinds of arguments are not designed to persuade, they're designed to allow people to feel superior to their opponents. And certain people would rather go down to defeat feeling superior rather than win if winning means conceding some kind of intellectual dignity to their opponents.   
I would rather win this fight.  

--- On Mon, 9/12/11, Philip Azar <pazar at nc.rr.com> wrote:

From: Philip Azar <pazar at nc.rr.com>
Subject: Re: [Durham INC] Fwd:  letter on the marriage amendment
To: INC-list at rtpnet.org
Date: Monday, September 12, 2011, 8:50 AM

Tom, Thank you for your INC leadership and for nurturing a forum in which neighborhoods can take positions and communicate them.     Some of the comments in the cover letter may go beyond that in the resolution, but they are consistent with the direction of the resolution and were clearly voiced at the meeting without provoking any negative reaction.  While that does not transform each of your comments at the meeting into an official INC position, I do think it shows that they are within your discretion to make as you muster the energy to actually get the resolution out and advocate in support of it.    Keep up the good work!    Philip AzarTrinity Park Neighborhood Association INC Delegate, authorized to vote for the resolution    From: inc-list-bounces at rtpnet.org [mailto:inc-list-bounces at rtpnet.org] On Behalf Of Reyn Bowman
Sent: Monday, September 12, 2011 6:56 AM
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Subject: [Durham INC] Fwd: letter on the marriage amendment  Here it is Bill---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Tom Miller <tom-miller1 at nc.rr.com>
Date: Sat, Sep 10, 2011 at 12:17 PM
Subject: [Durham INC] letter on the marriage amendment
To: inc-list at rtpnet.org

here is the letter I sent to our delegation.
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